Most people, as well as many psychologists and educators, consider self-esteem to be the basis of emotional well-being and success. The world-famous psychologist Albert Ellis, on the contrary, calls self-esteem the greatest emotional disorder that makes us dependent on the opinions of others: we praise ourselves, if others approve of us, we curse ourselves when others do not approve of us. It turns out that self-esteem can harm the psyche. In the book , which has already helped millions of readers to cope with the oppression of self-esteem, Dr. Ellis not only breaks the scientific myth about the meaning and benefits of self-esteem but also gives exercises to change self-assessed thought patterns, emotions and behavior on a positive approach of self-acceptance , As a basis for establishing healthy relationships with oneself and other people .